Second Marriages

The most recent data suggest that second marriages account for nearly 30% of the weddings taking place in a given year.

That is a significant number of brides who are wondering about many of the same questions that first time brides have-plus a few more that are unique to their situation. Our experienced consultants can be a second time bride's best friend and resource so feel free to stop in and ask for our help and advice.

Since not all second weddings are the same, many of your decisions will be based on whether or not there are children involved, your age and that of your fiance, and whether this is a second wedding for your or for both of you. The only "rule" is that you choose the kind of ceremony that makes both of you feel good. Here are some general guidelines to get you started with your plans.

1. If there are children involved, they should be the first to hear your good news. the way you tell them should be designed to help them feel like they are gaining another parent, not losing the one they have.

2. If there are children involved, most authorities agree that it is also proper to inform a former spouse of your plans.

3. If it is the bride's second marriage, the traditional formal announcement is not made. If it is the bride's first and the groom's second, a formal announcement is made.

4. If the is the bride's second marriage, a semi-formal or informal wedding is generally chosen rather than a large formal wedding. An exception may be made if the bride did not have a formal first wedding or if this is the first marriage for the groom to be. Local customs may influence either of these exceptions.

5. If your your wedding guests include only a few close friends and relatives, you shouldn't send printed invitations. We can help you find a style and wording that works for you.

6. We find that many couples are opting for a small intimate ceremony for family and close friends only, followed by a large formal reception. If that is your case, plan to send formal reception invitations to all guests and insert a ceremony card for guests who are invited to both.